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Me, My Self and I make up each of our Psyche–Our Individual Totality

Friday, October 16th, 2009

The statement “what we all have in common is that each one of us is unique” begs the question who each one us is. Other questions include: Is each of our psyche unique? Is so, why do we all fall in love, have sex and want families? Who are we…as individuals. My perspective on my totality (“My Psyche”) includes the following triad: my character (“Me”), my personality (“I”) and my unconscious (“My Self”)

The “Me” is who I believe I am and how I feel I am, i.e., my character. My honesty, perseverance, loyalty, tolerance, competitiveness, athleticism, etc. are qualities of my character and direct my feelings about me. They are how I see me.

The “I” is the part of my totality that relates to the outside world thus it is what others see of Me, i.e., my personality. My wit, charm, politeness, fine penmanship, cleanliness, etc. are qualities that others easily see and relate to. I present these qualities to the world.

There can be discordance between the I and ME. Many have secret characteristics for which they compensate in their personalities. For example, the Me is a messy while the I is not. The I is highly “moral” while the Me craves “immoral” acts. As a rule, it is impossible for the I to always compensate for a different Me.

“My Self” is my unconscious and it only sporadically messages the Me and I through dreams, voices, synchronicity and archetypes like the anima/animus, Mother, Father, Shadow. My Self sees everything but the I and Me do not. The Self is the source of micro-expessions, “gut feeling” and premonitions. My Self is as vast inwardly and the Universe is outwardly. It became unconscious as to not overwhelm the I and Me. Nevertheless, My Self is where my desires for love, sex and family arise.

The Me, My Self and I comprise my totality–my psyche. Only when we live in harmony with this triad will we be in the world in good faith to one’s Slef. An if we can’t be in the world in good faith…then what can we be?